It’s not strange for you to want to be liked by everyone. Deep down, that’s the desire of most people. But must you forego your personal moral code to gain the status you seek? Fortunately, that’s not the case!
There are a few adjustments you can make so you stand out to others in a positive way. And the best part is you won’t need to answer to your conscience!
Become popular with your morals intact by following these guidelines:
1. Tell the truth kindly. Others appreciate when you’re honest. However, the way you say things matters greatly.
- If someone has done something offensive, you can point it out in a subtle way. Avoid making declarations in a crowd.
- It sometimes helps if you state your concern as a question to the other person. Give them the chance to figure out what you want to reveal to them. They’ll appreciate you even more.
2. Develop a well-rounded knowledge base. The more things you know, the more easily you’ll fit into crowds. Having factual feedback makes you a point of interest and a “go-to” person for others.
- Be careful to avoid sounding like a know-it-all. People can feel intimidated by that slightly arrogant approach.
- Although you want to be likeable, gain the additional knowledge for yourself. Being well-rounded makes you a more marketable person. Other opportunities can come your way as well.
3. Volunteer your assistance. When you take the time to offer your help, it shows that you’re interested. Whether in a personal or professional circle, volunteering your assistance leaves a mark in the minds of others and makes you more likeable.
- Avoid being too pushy, as if craving attention. Make a subtle announcement of your capabilities and willingness to help.
- Sometimes, providing assistance without being asked can be amazing. Just be sure to not intrude on others, as it can sometimes be viewed as offensive. Instead, point out that you recognized a need and decided to offer your assistance.
4. Solicit the feedback of others. Let them know you value their opinion. Whether good or bad, people like to feel important! Without being too frivolous with the approach, get some real help when you need it.
- Let’s say you have a presentation to do. If you know a particular co-worker is good at presentations, ask them to rate the one you prepared. Take the feedback constructively, and say thanks at the end.
- When you ask someone for help it shows that you recognize their strengths and it’s a great start to fostering a positive relationship.
As you follow these tips, you’ll see that gaining popularity isn’t about just doing whatever others want to do and going along with the crowd. That strategy could, indeed, bring challenges to your moral code. Instead, by enhancing your personable nature, you can expect greater popularity in return.
Avoid dwelling on trying to make people like you. Just work towards enhancing your positive qualities and helping others to feel good about themselves. You’ll shine in any crowd!